How am I treating my family today?

Recently there have been a few conversations with friends on how to text an opposite gender, the boundaries and trying to dissect the text on what's too much and the underlying meaning the other person could have meant. 

"Do not awaken love until it so desires.. "

Though a mindless convo very often has no ill intent, I think is important to check our heart on this.

Are your conversation or actions stems from a place where you do not know yet how to deal with your loneliness? 

To be very honest and open here, there were times my playful nature has carelessly caused hurt and disappointments to the opposite gender in my younger days. I have since repented and am still growing and being watchful in this area too. Boundaries aren't meant to look like a legalistic set of rules on the "Dos and Donts". It has a lot to do with our heart's intent. 

Are our actions potentially leading another person on when we aren't even sure about them? 

Speaking from a sister's POV, are we fiercely guarding our brothers' heart and purity, even if it means having to fight our own desires and selfishness, and risk being seen as "un-nice" or "unfriendly"?

The excitement from receiving a text of the opposite gender, the romantic sentiment that comes with it, are you enjoying them at their expense, without the commitment, care or concern that comes with such affections? Are the brothers' words and affections objects for our selfish consumption? 

I believe our affections are to be given wisely.

If you do not intend to pursue the possibility of anything more with him, then why have you awaken his heart? Why are you comfortable with his heart pining for you? Do you care if he gets hurt?

Are you willing to lay down your rights/desires/pleasures to protect his heart? Do you see him as a brother in Christ to love and encourage, or as something to consume for your own selfish pleasure?

Romantic pleasures are amazing as it is from God, but they are meant to be enjoyed between two committed individuals, or the very least working towards it. It isn't meant for clueless people too afraid  to make their intentions clear and fearful of having any real commitment between them. 


How are we treating our family today?

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